Hints for enjoying SWINGING

Couples new to swinging may be at a loss as how to fit in, and may be nervous as well.  This is common and quite natural.  It is the responsibility of the club, hosts, or the person or couple bringing the new couple to acquaint them with the structure of the party.  They should also introduce them to others and help them to become involved in conversation. Beyond this, the responsibility for fitting into and enjoying the party is the new couple's. Suggestions for a new couple:

A. Stay together until you feel comfortable about being apart, but don't cling to one another as it will work to prevent others from approaching you.

B. If there is general disrobing, slip into a robe, negligee, or go nude yourself.  Though you may remain fully clothed and be accepted, changing into something more revealing will help you to become involved.  It serves to make you more accessible physically and socially.

C. Be open with each other with your feelings.  Do not allow yourself to harbor feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, or other uncomfortable feelings.  Do not berate your partner.

D.  Don't be reluctant to ask questions of other guests.  Swingers are interested in new people and are generally eager to answer questions about swinging.

E. If there is a hot tub or jacuzzi, use it.  Being nude in comfortable hot water in close proximity to others is conducive to making friends and becoming involved.

F. Leave your inhibitions home.  Sexual and social inhibitions will most likely interfere with your swinging pleasure.  Leave them home or park them at the door (so to speak) as you enter the party - you can pick them up again (if you want them) when the party is over and you have had a good time.  You can't expect to get much out of a swing party if you are unwilling to put much into it.

G. Be responsible, friendly, and good-natured.  Don't act or pretend - be yourself.  A smile invites social experience; a frown repels.